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Mar 28, 2021Liked by Arinze Obiezue

My dear, I browsed through a past post on your weekly and saw something about your relationship status. I quickly DMed my brother and he confirmed.

Lol, the first thing I thought, "I want to hear how you came out". I'm glad you shared this cause it confirmed my suspicions: YOU DID IT LIKE A DORITHIAN! Haha, full on LGBTQ+ society and everything!

I'm really proud of you Arinze. Really proud!! Jisike o nna. Jisike! Thank you for being you! We deserve nothing less! ❤

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Mar 28, 2021Liked by Arinze Obiezue

Thank you for sharing this story. You're more of a superhero than any DC superhero that has ever existed.

It takes incredible willpower to push through identifying as a queer person while society is trying to sink you.

I've been out and queer for about 2 years now. Like you, I didn't appear on NTA to make the announcement. I mean, I would if I could(Cos, drama). I'm lucky to have a supportive family and friends who empathise with my struggle. I wish everyone in our community has this sort of support.

I adore effeminacy and it saddens me each day how I had to 'man up.' This came after I was abused and he kept saying it was my fault 'I dey do like girl.' I know better now. I've searched for this 12 year old, but I'm afraid he's dead and it hurts I killed him.

I pray we continue to find strength and love ourselves as fiercely as we would if we could give our younger selves the love they deserved.

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If there's one thing I really love, it's how you're owning and telling your story. Thank you, Zari !

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I've always been and will always be so proud of you. Read the entire thing like 3 times and I kept smiling throughout. So excited to watch you keep growing!

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Mar 28, 2021Liked by Arinze Obiezue

Thank you for sharing this. I admire your strength and growth.

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Mar 28, 2021Liked by Arinze Obiezue

Thank you for sharing. It’s sad how normalized homophobia is in Nigeria, and I’m glad you’re where you are now <3

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Mar 29, 2021Liked by Arinze Obiezue

This is beautiful Arinze and watching you grow and being comfortable in your own identity has really been amazing!

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